Adversity – a state or instance of serious or continued difficulty or misfortune
All men face adversity at various points in their lives. When it strikes, we are faced with a choice. We can either choose to fight or we can choose to give up. Nobody remembers the man who gives up.
There are few examples of adversity more harrowing than a cancer diagnosis. Staring down the very real possibility of your own mortality can bring even the strongest of men to their knees. In those moments, it’s paramount that we stand up and fight relentlessly.
In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad are joined by their friend Andy Musser. Andy is a landscaper and hardscaper by trade, an avid outdoorsman, a husband, and a father. In this remarkable conversation, Andy shares his experience of finding out he had cancer only weeks after finding out he was going to be a father, just as everything in life was falling into place.
He talks about how he was initially misdiagnosed with Stage IV colon cancer, being told he only had a couple of years to live, and how those initial dark days led him to turn to God and choose hope.
After that initial misdiagnosis, Andy was diagnosed with Stage IIIA colon cancer and approached his treatment and inevitable recovery with tenacity and relentlessness. He chose to study his enemy, fight aggressively, and never concede. That tenacity eventually led to his ultimate victory: a clean bill of health and being cancer-free.
Andy admits that he is grateful for cancer. Not because of the illness itself, but the lessons it taught him that he has now extended to all areas of his life. This is a story of determination and resiliency and one of our most powerful conversations yet.