Victor – one that defeats an enemy or opponent
We are not victims. In a world where too many people use victimhood as a badge of honor, it’s the men who do not allow themselves to play the victim card who ultimately achieve victory.
In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, the guys are joined by Ben Kjar. Ben was born with Crouzon’s syndrome, which is a craniofacial anomaly. As a boy, doctors told him he would live a different life, but he did not allow that to define him.
Ben has gone on to become an NCAA Division 1 Wrestling All-American, a highly successful real estate investor, a house flipper, and an international professional speaker. Most importantly, he has also become a husband and a father of three young children. Throughout his life, he has adopted a Victor Over Victim mindset and shared this message worldwide.
In this inspiring, fiery conversation, Ben discusses how his mindset was forged at a young age by a loving mother who would not allow him to feel sorry for himself. He discusses how this has led him to consciously decide to look at himself in the mirror daily and be proud of the man staring back at him.
Ben talks about understanding his core values, which he calls his 6 F’s (you’ll have to listen to learn all six!). He goes into how these 6 F’s have developed his mindset to enrich his life and allowed him to positively impact countless others positively.
This is the story of a man who decided not to allow what may have seemed to be an unfair hand to derail him but rather to springboard him to an abundant, successful life.